Arranged Vs Love marriage
I have been discussing this topic in my own teenage / adulthood and used to be very confused. Although there is not much to be confused about it but you know the teenage!. Most prominent feelings of those days used to be “what to do if I fall in love with someone?” Please don’t be judgmental as, it never happened for myself. As life is being squeezed with every mark of year and is evolved too – at last found the answer of few questions. So sharing those answers is agenda of this little writing and may this be a guide to the young ones (although it might not be the case).
I’ll not hook myself with this ongoing debate of
Ø Being in love and then marriage OR
Ø Being in love and be married with someone who is chosen by parents OR
Ø Being in frame of reference where emotions do not matter and one binds himself or herself with the choice of parents OR anything that one can think of.
One will have to give space and margin to the second party in order to make the relation a success; any relation from friendship to wife/husband. If we consider this a rule of thumb then look at the marriage choices above. The choice that gives maximum chance to this rule – can be a way forward.
Please don’t choose partner on the basis of material. “She is so hot” “damn he is so beautiful and rich” “she got the figures man” could all these typos be a reason/basis of a relation like marriage?
People please consider marriage a sacred relation and do not ruin it because of “fatal illness” called “jawani”. Why I’ll use “illness” for the part of life which is full of joy and energy? It’s because of surroundings and things those affects/directs our decisions and emotions.
